Key To Success In Life

SwaDharma expalined in Bhagwat Geeta –

Dharma, Religion, explained in Bhagwat Geeta is not Hindu Religion or Islam Religion or Christian Religion.  It’s a religion of self. When one is born he or she gets this religion naturally. None has to search for it. The society exists before we are born, our parents exist before we born, so naturally to serve them becomes our religion. That’s the purpose of our life.

Every life has a purpose and every person is born with his unique religion. Each one’s religion is equally important because everyone is born with unique purpose. However you feel others life is of higher importance one should not try to adapt to that religion of life as it may not suite you. Because of sunlight we get food, we are delighted, we respect Sun and if we start thinking Sun is better than Earth as it emits light but living on Sun can not become better option. Milk is rich in proteins does not mean fish can stay in milk rather in water.

When Arjun looked around the battle field and thought of accepting Sanyasi Dharma, Krishna explained him not to leave his own religion because of Moh, but his religion was Kshatriya and to continue with his Swadharma.

There will be many occasions of Moh when one will feel to leave our dharma and accept some other but Bhagwan says one has to overcome it.

Self religion keeps changing. The religion what you had ten years before was different than what you have today and it will be different than what you will have ten years after. Self religion keeps changing with experience and knowledge.

Key to success is to follow Swadharma.

Blessed Parents

One of the greatest learning of Bhagwat Geeta is ‘Karmanyewadhikaraste Ma Faleshu Kadhachan’. Do your karmas without any expectations. It’s a belief of Hinduazism who follows this principle in life gets Moksha.

That’s why whenever a child is born in a family it’s always considered as blessing of god as parent most of the people invariably follows the principle of Bhagwat Geeta. They just do their best for the upbringing of the child without any expectation. Their happiness lies in child’s happiness.

Moreover, I feel daughter’s parents are most punyawans as they don’t even expect girl to look after themselves in their old days. They nurture their daughter so that she can take care of someone else’s family. They have great heart.

In India, its considered to have son as the blessed parents but I feel the real blessed are the one having girl child.

What’s Life All About?

Life is full of uncertainties. Life is based on our beliefs.

As a kids we are taught certain values and beliefs. We start living our life based on those beliefs. Our experiences lead us to question our beliefs, and then we start thinking about What's life all about? What's the purpose of life? Since ancient time, humans have gone through this exercise and have come up with various theories and concepts about how to live life: we call them religions. some follow their religion without questioning, some reluctantly, and some don’t at all. Some try to explore another galaxies to save human species, some find the life so meaningless that they end themselves, and some blessed people just live the life the way it comes without thinking at all.

We don't get life by our wish nor do we leave this world by our wish. Do we live our life as per our wish?

Achchhe Din Aanewale Hein

Today read the blog by Chetan Bhagat. He correctly said only good government cant bring good days;  good people, good society are equally responsible for it.
Today we easily find curruption, people breaking traffic rules, throwing garbage on roads, being irresponsible citizens, being selfish. I get depressed to watch news channels to see crime rate in our country.
But today's experince was different. I was at roadside sandwich stall and a family was enjoying panipuri at next stall. The two kids were struggling to have panipuri and they happened to make the area dirty. The mom took tissue paper and cleaned the road.
Dont you think we can learn from this lady? When I see such people around I see hope that this place can be a better place to live. Small things done by all can bring big change.

My Unforgettable Valentine’s Day

This was when I was in second year of my graduation.

On Valentine’s day the collage atmosphere was cheerful. It was D Day for the couples. Singles were looking for their dream partners. I had a group of some friends and we were just roaming around looking at  the crowd. The couples from our group already had some plans. Single boys from our group were searching for girl partners. We three girls were thinking to celebrate the day as a group but boys were not interested. We pissed off with guys and decided to go for movie ‘Akele Hum Akele Tum’. We found out where its been shown and decided to go to Bandra Galaxy theatre.

We were very excited, reached there and got to know the show is housefull. We got disappointed but Neeta told us we can get tickets in black. Prerana and me have not bought tickets in black ever before but we decided to go for black as we desperately wanted to celebrate the day. Neeta bought the tickets and we had some time for the show. We were very happy and stood in the queue to get in and we suddenly realised the tickets were not for ‘Akele Hum Akele Tum’, it was for ‘Bandit Queen’ and ticket for this movie was not fully sold when we bought and on top of that we didn’t want to see this movie at all.

What to do now. We did not want to waste our money and not to watch the movie as well. We decided to sell those tickets at the price for which we bought. Somehow we were able to do it. But when I was selling my ticket to a guy he asked ‘Since when you started this?’ and we got so nervous and scared that we almost ran from the theatre and stopped only when we reached Bandra railway station.

And we named ourselves ‘Thakele Hum Thakele Tum’ J

On every Valentine’s day I remember this day J

Its High Time To Change

The divorce rate is increasing in our country.

The first thing we will say its because girls are becoming economically independent.

But is that the real cause? Have we done introspection?

The time has changed, but we are still following the same old social rules. Nobody gets married to get divorced.

First question, why a girl has to leave her home and be a part of other family? Why not a boy? Is it simply because society is male dominated? Aren’t all customs in favor of boy’s family? Don’t you think girl’s parents keep following these customs so that their daughter can live happily and none from her in-laws should point at her or her family.

Now girls are educated and self dependent. But are not boys educated enough to understand that the old customs are wrong?

Why can’t two families stay together, especially if the girl’s parents are alone? Is that practically impossible?

The new trend if the couple not ready to stay with girl’s parents then not even boy’s parents and is this more accepted because its practically possible?

Why people are so narrow minded to stay together? If a girl can lose her identity why can’t people adjust a little to accommodate and help each other and live in harmony?

The list of such customs is very long...

Mazi Charoli

Khup Kahi Lihavas Watat
Kaay Lihu Suchan Nahi
Mul Houn Bagdawas Watat
Vay Saath Det Nahi

What Is More Beautiful?

The debate started what is more beautiful, Sunrise or Sunset?
Sunrise brings hope and energy whereas Sunset brings gloominess and an end.
But both makes sky colorful. Sun rises because Sun sets. Ones existence depends on other. We enjoy morning because there exists night, otherwise life is monotonous.
Death is equally beautiful that of birth as it ends the pain in life. We enjoy happiness because we know pain in sorrows.

Is That Me??

Sindbad The Sailor Jahaaz Me Jab Chala
Mere Yaar Sun Lo Sun Lo
Dhoondh Raha Tha Ek Nayi Duniya Ka Pata
Mere Yaar Sun Lo Sun Lo
Woh Anjaani Raahon Me Thaa..O-O
Woh Lehron Ki Baahon Me Thaa..O-O

Sab Ne Kaha Tha In Samundaron Me Jaana Nahi
Mere Yaar Sun Lo Sun Lo
Khwaabon Ke Peeche Jaake Kuch Bhi Hai Paana Nahi
Mere Yaar Sun Lo Sun Lo
Woh Apni Hi Dhun Me Rahaa..O-O
Woh Sunna Tha Dil Ka Kahaa..O-O

(Uske The Jo Sapne, Wohi Uske The Apne,
Aisa Tha Sindbad The Sailor (Sailor)) (2)

Uska Jahaaz Khila Toofanon Me
Mere Yaar Sun Lo Sun Lo
Phir Bhi Na Aayi Kami Uske Armaanon Me
Mere Yaar Sun Lo Sun Lo
Woh Deewana Aisa Hi Thaa..O-O
Woh Sapnon Ka Humrahi Thaa..O-O

(Uske The Jo Sapne, Wohi Uske The Apne,
Aisa Tha Sindbad The Sailor (Sailor)) (2)

Woh Kuch Paane Ki Chah Me..O-O
Woh Badhta Raha Raah Me..O-O
Gehra Samundar Tha, Unchi Unchi Lehren
Mere Yaar Sun Lo Sun Lo
Kashtiyaan Jin Dekhi Mushkil Se Thehre
Mere Yaar Sun Lo Sun Lo
Woh Saahil Tak Aa Hi Gayaa..O-O
Woh Manzil Ko Paa Hi Gayaa..O-O

(Uske The Jo Sapne, Wohi Uske The Apne,
Aisa Tha Sindbad The Sailor (Sailor)) (2)

Tum Ho Toh Gaata Hai Dil
Tum Nahi Toh Geet Kahaan
Tum Ho Toh Hai Sab Haasil
Tum Nahi Toh Kya Hai Yahaan
Tum Ho Toh Hai Sapnon Ke Jaisa Haseen Ek Samaa
Jo Tum Ho Toh Yeh Lagta Hai Ki Mil Gayi Har Khushi
Jo Tum Na Ho Yeh Lagta Hai Ki Har Khushi Me Hai Kabhi
Tum Ko Mangti Yeh Zindagi

Movie : Rock On!!
Music Director : Shankar Ehsaan Loy
Singer(s) :Farhan Akhtar, Raman Mahadevan
Lyricists :Javed Akhtar

India Against Corruption

Even after doing everything 100% legally correct... y m i not getting possession of my house.... is it because the seller of the house is son of police??
We have made the deal with zero black amount, still the seller is not giving me possession... he asked us to pay more 21000/- by cheque as he wants white money (dont know why... not aware of his kali kartute) and we will pay less to broker...
This is disgusting....
and even after that we haven't got the possession and as we paid him unwillingly we feel we should stop the payment and just go to the house and don't move from there till he vacates the house...
What say friends????

What The Hell Maharashtra Govt Doing

Once upon a time Mumbai was known for industries in the city. This was dream city for Indians. But I think its no more same now. Its good to see many other cities in the country growing at faster rate.
Property rates at mumbai were always high as its known as costliest land in the world alongwith Tokyo. The property rates are still getting higher & higher, they are beyond common mans reach. Industries are reluctant to start their plants in Mumbai for the same reason. The existing industries are selling of their lands in Mumbai and utilizing the capital and investing in other parts of India. If no inustries are left in Mumbai who will stay at Mumbai? Mumbai will loose its charm.

What government is doing? Maharashtra Govt has no plans. No control on anything. Its total chaos.

Dil Hein Chhotasa Chhotisi Aasha

Everyday I commute to office using public transport bus service in Mumbai. Awesome public transport in Mumbai, one doesn’t need to have own vehicle to travel to any part of the city. The only pain is road traffic. On my route to office there are two types of busses AC & Non-AC. I prefer whichever comes first.

The other day I was travelling by Non-AC bus. Surprisingly there were no many passengers that day. The bus had stopped at signal on Western Express Highway and two beggar kids got in. Conductor asked money from them for the ticket. They paid the amount and rushed to the first seat of the bus. They were enjoying bus ride as it was new experience for them. They were actually jumping and running in bus as if they are enjoying in any amusement park. They asked their friends on the road to join them in bus while bus was passing by but the new kids did not have money to pay. As the bus was not much crowded conductor allowed them to get into the bus and enjoy the bus ride warning them this is the only time he will allow them to do so.

Everyone in the bus was happy to see the kids are enjoying, none took any objection. Those street kids with all dirt on their clothes and body were sharing seats with usual passengers and the office going passengers were enjoying their amusement.

Wow, That’s called Mumbai Spirit. Are people racist in India????

This Happens In Delhi As Well

A year completed for my marriage….

Sharing my experience which was pending since long time….

We had been to Jim Corbett Jungle, Nainital, Uttarakhand for our honeymoon. No need to say we had amazing time there. Met good people, had good food, enjoyed nature and were on our way back thinking everything went well than what we had planned and expected.

We reached Delhi Railway Station around 4:00 AM, hired a cab to go to airport. Little scared as Delhi not being safe at night. The roads were empty and I was enjoying Delhi Ki Thandi with Sachin. We reached airport very safely. Sachin paid the pre-decided amount to the driver and we headed towards the entrance. I took out my id proof and Sachin started to look for wallet for his. Realized we have lost our wallet and Sachin not having his id proof as well as printout of the flight reservation. The entire trip was such a nice experience and I thought it should not have been ended like this.

Sachin went on the road to look for the cab and the driver but he had already left. Hardly in five minutes the cab came to us. The driver gave the wallet to Sachin saying he found it on the seat. The driver had gone to arrival entrance and again came back to departure gate where he had dropped us.

Although Delhi is not known for such incidents I had different experience.

Why would? Why would? Why would???

Why would any government make policies for people not voting?
Why would any government provide facilities for people not paying tax?
Why would any government decision not get affected by a corporate generating employment and helping nation to build?

Why would citizens continue staying in a country which do not give you opportunities to grow?
Why would any citizen vote if there are not worthy candidates?
Why would farmers crop their fields if they are not well paid?

Why would? Why would? Why would?
The endless cycle goes on....

Rats In Cage

A psychologist named John B Calhoun performed a classic experiment with laboratory rats that demonstrated the territorial urge. He constructed a network of cages containing four pens, two with only one entrance which could be defined by dominant male and two in the middle which were difficult to defend. Two dominant males (with retinue of females) quickly established the desirable pens as their own territory, forcing the rest of the males to live in the central pens. The central pens became overcrowded and the rats fought constantly trying to establish territory. As the overcrowding got worse, so did the rats behavior – they formed gangs and raped, killed and became cannibals.
In their natural state, rats have elaborate courtship rituals and rarely fight to death. Overcrowding had induced anti-social or criminal behavior in the rats.

Isn't that explains human behavior as well? Limited resources inducing anti-social behavior in overcrowded area.

Over population is root cause of many of the problems in India. Isn't it?

Reference - Written In Blood

War Against Terrorism

Why India is playing cricket against Pak Just because it generates huge revenue... Even after knowing Pak involvement in terrorism.... Dawood Ibrahim, Tiger Menon were safe in Pak… US shot dead Osama Bin Laden in Pakistan… Can these terrorist get shelter in Pak without support of Pak government?

We celebrate death of Kasab but we can't refrain from watching indo-Pak match right?
I am not in favour of this series so not going to watch this series
Whoever not in favour of terrorism please don't go to stadium, don't watch this match on tv… Get trp down get the revenue down...
Our police soldiers do not scarifies their lives so that we can watch already fixed friendship series.

We Indians always want someone else act on any problem, we expect our government should provide us facilities, our soldiers to protect our borders, our scientists to provide us new technologies, our police to maintain law n order, our cricketers to win matches, our athletes to get medals and what do we do? Just criticize others..

We won’t understand the pain unless we lose someone from our own family. Is that necessary to wait till that time? War is fought at every front. Let’s do what we can do.

South Africa was banned for racism. Let’s ban Pakistan for terrorism.

No hard feelings for Pakistani citizens. I believe they are innocent.

Maslow’s Hierarchy Of Needs

The first need is food and water. A hungry or thirsty person will think about little else than finding something to eat and drink. They are not particularly interested in philosophy, music or may be even being nice to other people. But having satisfied the first need, people start thinking about the second need – shelter, a cave or a roof over the head. People search for security. Having achieved a food supply and somewhere to live, their minds turn to third need – love and sense of belonging. Humans are social animals; they need to be with other people. We need to feel loved, we need family and community. The fourth need is esteem – we not only want to belong to a family or community we want to be liked and respected. Fifth need is self-actualisation – the need to understand the world, to create or solve the problems just for fun of it.

Maslow’s hierarchy of needs helps explain both altruistic and barbaric behavior in some situations.

My observation is some people can not rise ever... eg. few are stuck with their first need for the entire life even if they get plenty of food they are never satisfied... few get stuck with money (could be esteem as money gets you respect in society) how much ever they earn.

However few even if they have no money no food they have need to seek knowledge about the world and curious about the things around them keep solving the puzzles... few earns money so that they can solve the puzzles about the world and help the other.

So the hierarchy explained by Maslow is common behavior of people but there are exceptions. Everyone has different needs.

Reference - Written In Blood

Think About It

If men are rated on the wealth they have, women are rated on the looks they have

Why would they waste their time and energy in building good character?

Lucky & Proud Girl Child

Lucky & proud girl child to be brought up and educated by parents without expecting their girl child will look after them in their old age, which is the reason in this country boy child is welcome in family over a girl.

Hats off to all such parents who did not kill their girls, who did not give birth to children longing for a son. 

A Year With Sach

Lots many thoughts popping up same time, confused how to start, let me close my eyes and take breath and sort them out:)

I know Sachin for a year now. On first Oct 2011 I met him first time and on next day we decided to marry. Very strange, right? or this is how marriages are fixed in India. People take months to decide where to invest their money but no time to decide with whom to live entire life. Arranged marriage is the greatest gamble I played and found myself very fortunate this time.

 I didn’t know anything about him except his degrees :) and for the only reason I said yes to him as he is an IIT-ian and for his very pleasant personality. Every time I met him my apprehensive mind gained more confidence on my decision.

Till now every moment I spent with him is very exciting and interesting. Arranged marriage is full of surprises and till now I have come across only with pleasant surprises. He is just the way I want my lifepartner to be. Hey Sach, don’t get overconfidant, there is a scope for improvement ;)

May my entire life is full of such surprises and excitement with Sachin…