Healthy Lifestyle

 Embracing a Healthy Lifestyle in a Fast-Paced World

In today's fast-paced era, maintaining a healthy lifestyle has become increasingly challenging. With both parents often working, extended office hours, long commutes, and the constant noise and pollution of city life, it’s no wonder many people feel overwhelmed. Family time is scarce, fast food is just a call or click away, and our free time is frequently consumed by screens. Mobile devices have become almost an extension of ourselves, and our weekends often revolve around late-night parties as a means to unwind. Unfortunately, this hustle and bustle can lead us to realize that we've lost touch with what it means to live a truly fulfilling and healthy life.

Why Talk About a Healthy Lifestyle?

Discussing a healthy lifestyle is crucial. To live a long, fit, and fulfilling life, it's essential to strike a balance in all aspects of our lives. True health encompasses not only physical well-being but also mental and emotional stability. When we achieve emotional balance and manage stress effectively, many of our problems begin to resolve themselves.

Striking a Balance

• Work-Life Harmony: Prioritize your needs and work towards fulfilling the most important ones. Establishing a healthy work-life balance is crucial. Allocate quality family time and engage in activities that you all enjoy. Consider activities like playing games, reading and discussing books together, or going for long walks.
• Physical Health: A healthy lifestyle involves eating a balanced diet rich in proteins, carbohydrates, fats, vitamins, and minerals. Regular exercise, avoiding tobacco and drugs, and ensuring adequate rest are also vital. Remember, our bodies are like machines that require this balance to function optimally.
• Mental and Emotional Well-being: Aim for at least 8 hours of sleep each night. Incorporate meditation and introspection into your routine to maintain mental clarity and emotional balance.

Love Yourself and Take Time for Yourself

Don’t forget to prioritize self-care. Taking “me time” is essential for maintaining your overall well-being. Reconnect with the basics of a simpler lifestyle; sometimes, revisiting old habits can help restore balance and improve quality of life.

By focusing on these fundamental aspects, you can navigate the complexities of modern life while preserving your health and well-being. Embrace these principles, and watch how your life begins to align with a more balanced, healthy, and fulfilling path.

 

Dekho Meine Dekha Hein Ek Sapana….

Its been more than a year we are talking about and fighting against Covid-19. This year all of us faced lots of difficulties but we learnt many ways to overcome them.

We are more digital now. We learnt to sell our products and services online. Schooling is done online now. Most of the business and office employees are working from home and from their home towns remotely. There is an increasing demand to work from remote places during this lockdown.

This Covid will surely change our lifestyle. Villages will turn into smart cities. Infrastructure at villages will be improved. This will create more opportunities at remote areas reducing burden on metro cities and improving overall standard of living in India.

Hope we all work towards it to make it possible. Long way to go!!

Jai Durga Ma

The Durga Puja is synonymous with Navaratri, wherein goddess Durga battled and emerged victorious over Mahishasur to help restore Dharma.

When the festival starts, various messages start floating on social media comparing women with the goddess Durga. I just have one genuine doubt: why women are compared with a goddess and are expected to behave like a goddess. Why not compare men with Mahadeva, Ganapati, Rama so that they also start behaving like these deities? (As per Hindu Mythology, Purana, Dev were also cunning, that’s the other thing).

Celebrating womanhood now a days is very common and it is because of if you suppress anything it reacts with abnormal force. Why men don’t feel necessity of celebrating manhood?

Women are either treated as Goddess or like garbage. I would say, they should be treated as normal human. Women themselves should consider themselves as human, not superior or inferior to men. If women understand this, they will convey the same to the rest of the world.

Happy Navaratri!!

My Unfulfilled Dream Coming True, Dreaming Next...

 8 years before I had dreamt of something to start my own… my digital marketing company… and main purpose was to give marketing platform to weavers or handicraft artists of India where they can exhibit and sell their products. (yes, I am very fond of handicraft of India)

I got onsite assignment and I couldn’t work on this project of mine, I left it half way through…

And now when I see weavers from remote areas of country sell their products online using smartphones in their hand, small scale businesses running online sites and selling products of various artists, I feel happy to see my dream coming true. I feel so nice to interact with few such entrepreneurs and moreover women entrepreneurs.

Love this transition of Digital India. Yet lot to achieve. This virus will help to make it a little faster.

Schooling is online now. Last year I had train journey to Kutch and the train didn’t have pantry but with an app we could order our meal by giving PNR, coach & seat number and selecting the station where we want our meal to be delivered. Indians know how to use technology very well.

Now the next dream is innovation in India. Hoping our next generation will make it realize.

Never Stop Believing In Yourself and Your Dreams

One should know himself or herself very well, what are your assets and limitations. You may get rejected by people who looks at your limitations, you may also get rejected because you are overqualified but you should be in search of  right people or opportunities who will notice and value the good things about you whether it might be any relationship or business opportunity. One should always introspect for that and keep learning from experiences. One should know what does he or she wants in life and what is required to get that. None gets everything in life. To achieve something, we may have to sacrifice something. To get higher education probably you need to study hard and sacrifice on some entertainment, something like that. One should be aware of his or her needs and priorities. We need to be aware of ourselves and about the surrounding world. With every shut door new door opens up.

There is immense pleasure when you win against odds. Love yourself and Never stop believing in you and your dreams.

Apna Time Aayega!!

And The Show Must Go On

Now its been almost 6 months since the world is fighting against this novel virus, Covid-19. World wide economy is down, deaths in many families, people are jobless, some or the other day you get some or the other sad news form family and friends. It seems the natural calamities are less so China is giving war threats. I saw on post recently on Facebook, its seems now only alien attack is missing. These are the days where you should count yourself fortunate if you are alive, healthy and earning.

Yes, I am the one in this fortunate list having job and earning during this lockdown situation.

The other day I was so depressed, the cyclone was going on, heavy winds were blowing outside, raining heavily, life already at risk due to Covid being home in containment zone and I was engrossed in working on production issue, working day night without thinking of what is going on outside. I felt is that really what I should be doing. Later I consoled myself, what else I can do than doing work to keep things going as much as I can.

Every work, every person doing their best is what matters now. Healthcare people are hero saving other peoples life risking their own. People going out for work in lockdown for essential services are hero because of their services we can sit at home and eat safely. People working from home, your service is also important as because of your work economy is surviving. So guys, keep doing your best for your family and country.
I would also request to privileged people to shop something in this unlock phase so that the local shop keepers, hand loom workers, local producers can have some income. They are waiting for their goods to be consumed.

And yes, do take care of yourselves, take necessary precautions while doing your best for others. Live to your fullest while performing your duties. Lets contribute to make this world more beautiful and happy. 

Covid-19 v/s India and Food Habits

The entire world shattered with the outbreak of covid-19 in China and causing immense deaths. The infection spread in Europe, America and other countries causing havoc with many deaths.
Obviously how can India be the exception to it. I was very worried if the infection can cause so much loss to developed and less populated countries what will happen to India which is a densely populated and developing country with lesser availability of facilities.

The only hope I had, hot weather which is not suitable condition of the virus and better immunity of Indians which might respond well.

And yes, not sure what is exact reason, if all of the above, in last two months it has proven Indians responding well to the infection. Fatality v/s recovery rate is much lower for Indians than the rest of the world which is making us think what could be the reason.
May be our food habits and we getting exposed to infectious environment since birth building our immunity system better.

This covid-19 outbreak is really an alarm to us to go back to our basics and understand our traditions. As rightly mentioned by our PM Modiji, our Ayurveda has many remedies which we believe in but its time to prove it to the world by gathering scientific data for it and we should work on it.

Coming back to traditional food habits, here I am going to share some ayurvedic and scientific reasoning behind our traditional food habits.

Our traditional diet is basically roti, bhakari, rice, veggies and dal. Our diet should be balanced diet

perfect mix of carbs, proteins, fats, vitamins and minerals. Pulses, sprouts are rich in proteins. Rice, wheat roti, jawar/bajara bhakari are carbs. Bhakari is fibrous which is healthier than roti. Green vegetables rich in minerals. We get vitamins from fruit vegetable like Brengle, Pumpkin, orka, etc. Beans are rich in vitamins as well as proteins. Turmeric, ginger garlic are antiseptics as well as immunity boosters. The asafoetida (heeng), curry leaves which we use for tadaka is also good for health. Little use of spices is also beneficial not only for taste but for health. Use of coconut and oil to certain extend gives required fats to body. Coriander is good for urinary system. Our traditional food is based on Ayurveda and local crops. Butter milk after meal is digestive. Our full meal in comprising of all these items. Addition to it is raita, carrot beetroot salad, pudina chatani ( good for acidity) adds taste as well as are supplementary nutritious food. We should minimize intake of maida, sugar, salt and fried items in our food and increase seasonal local fruits.

Its time we should get back to our tradition, our basics and get away of the habits of fast food. Fast food, pizza, burger should be our occasional food habits. If we learn this even this from this covid outbreak, it will be an achievement.

Blessed to Have You as My Mother in Law

Sulu Mavashi as fondly we call you, It’s hard to believe you are not with us anymore. We will always miss you.

Sulu Mavashi you never treated me as your daughter in law but as your niece so you were never monther in law to me but you were one of favorite mavashi (autnty, monther’s sister). You were always my support. Without your support I wouldn’t have been what I am today. When I was newly married you always advised that lady of house has a difficult responsibility of striking balance to take care of sasural and maika as well. You always encouraged me to not to neglect my paternal family. You always stood by me in every decision, you encouraged me to go onsite and pursue my career goals.

You are the one who gave Sachin the books for IIT preparations.

You have been always inspirational to entire family, you always pampered, loved, cared everyone in the family and were there for everyone in their difficult times. You were the pillar of the family. You were amazing cook and we always enjoyed whenever we visited you or you visited us, especially I won’t forget Gulabjamun made by you. You were perfect blend of modern yet rooted to Indian culture. You taught us to keep the family together. Lots of things to learn from you, Sulu Mavashi.

You have laid such a strong foundation for the family that none of us will let you fail, feel sad ever. Om Shanti!!

Everything is Mitthya (Deceptive)

'Everything is Mitthya (Deceptive)', We get to read this in many books on Yoga. (don’t get confused with Yoga and Yogasanas). I never understood meaning of this when I started reading about it during my twenties. I never asked myself the purpose of my life then. As I got into my thirties I actually started thinking about it and now when I am in my forties I feel everything is Mitthya and I know I am still running behind it.

When you have dreams, when you are working hard to realize them as long as you feel you are on right path to achieve them, you no longer ask question about your existence and you no longer think about the purpose of your life. You may achieve your goals or may not. When you get matured you start realize these things doesn’t really matter. You close your eyes and see yourself and feel oneness (Adwaita) with universe (few may call it as God) is the only the Truth (Satya).

Yes, I loved that state but still not ready to leave Mitthya and explore what is the Truth.

I also feel, you start exploring the Truth when you don’t achieve anything in your life or you achieve everything in your life that you wanted or you are just curious to know what is it more than anything else in life.
Or you just realize everything is Mithya (Deceptive), you start of thinking detachment from everything around you. Lord Krishna also has taught us same thing by narrating Bhagwat Geeta and demonstrating by his own life, do your duties with practicing detachment. Easy to say but difficult to implement. Once you learn this you are not far to know oneness with universe (or God), The ultimate Truth.

It's a journey of a lifetime or probably multiple lifetimes (multiple lifetimes is again ?).

Yahi Hein Right Choice Baby... Aaha!!

I remember the days when I was in search of my life partner. I would say those were the most difficult days of my life. I was not typical marriage material and I was not looking for a typical settled guy. Being a s/w engineer I thought a s/w engineer would be best match for me so that we both can understand each other better and can live a successful married life. But when I actually started interacting with guys and their parents, I came across with weird parameters of matchmaking and I was never a fit for those and I used to think how can a guy and family who try to evaluate me with those parameters be a suitable match for me.
My wish to not get settled abroad was major hindrance to find the best match and I wasn’t ready to give up on that. Another wish of mine was that I should be able to communicate well, share, discuss on all aspects of life and topics with my life partner. He should not be religious. He should be a person with values. All such non typical parameters were part of my matchmaking criteria.
It took me almost 8 years to find me my man, thankfully he also chose me as his lady. (I still don’t know what he saw in me). When we decided to marry, what we had was our educational degrees and some work experience. I remember on our first meeting we discussed outsourcing strategies, economy trends, etc. He did not ask me if I know cooking neither I asked him his salary.
We started our journey with big dreams in eyes and I am very happy today with the time I spent with him. Every day getting assured I made right choice. I am very proud to be married to man who may not be earning in dollars but part of a team developing Indian Products: Trinka, a grammar and language correction AI tool for academic and technical writing and AuthorOne, a manuscript assessment AI tool. We may not have BMW, Audi but dream to have Jaguar :).
What could be better occasion to publish this blog than successful launch of second product, Trinka.

Idolatry (Murtipooja)

Idolatry is the worship of an idol or cult image, being a physical image, such as a statue, or a person in place of God.
In Abrahamic religions, namely Judaism, Christianity and Islam, idolatry connotes the worship of something or someone other than God as if it were God.
In these monotheistic religions, idolatry has been considered as the "worship of false gods" and is forbidden by the values such as the Ten Commandments.
Other monotheistic religions may apply similar rules.
In many Indian religions, such as theistic and non-theistic forms of Hinduism, Buddhism and Jainism, idols (murti) are considered as symbolism for the absolute but not The Absolute or icons of spiritual ideas or the embodiment of the divine. It is a means to focus one's religious pursuits and worship (bhakti).
In the traditional religions of ancient Egypt, Greece, Rome, Africa, Asia, the Americas and elsewhere, the reverence of an image or statue has been a common practice, and cult images have carried different meanings and significance.
-- Wikipedia

A aniconist king argued with Swami Vivekanand, how can you believe in Idolatry? Swami Vivekanand asked, “what will you do to a person if he spits on your late mother’s painting?”. The king spontaneously answered, “I will punish him.”. Swami said that’s Idolatry.

I feel, common person needs to visualize something surrender to, probably that’s the idea behind idolatry. But now a days people are getting carried away by it and have stopped to understand the meaning behind it.

Bucketlist

This is long time pending blog, actually I should have written it just after watching the movie but for some or the reason I kept delaying it. So now taking advantage of long weekend I have decided to write about it.

The marathi movie, Bucketlist, starring Madhuri Dixit (which is one of the item in Madhuri’s bucketlist to act in Marathi movie) unlike typical marathi movies, either comedy or classic, is little glamorous yet giving some message in very casual way. Although it was not counted as classic movie its very close to me as I can relate to the movie and very fact I liked as it gives message in casual way without emphasizing on it.

It talks about importance of organ donation, how a housewife should also have her own identity than to just losing herself in taking care of family, she also should have opinion and views and which should be respected by the family.

But the main reason its close to me as I do also have bucketlist and that’s my identity withough which I am incomplete. And I continuously keep working on it, 24X7 it’s in my mind; although I don’t have time limit for it.

I won’t mind sharing few items that have been marked tick till now.

1.       Staying independently before getting married and earn.

2.       Walking on streets at midnight with friends

3.       Going onsite in foreign countries not as developer but to work with client on requirement gathering for project

4.       To learn driving 4 wheeler and to own it

5.       Camping and tent stay

6.       Watching India playing at Wankhede (although it wasn’t ICC match, I enjoyed watching legends playing it)
7.       Bird Photography

And lot more yet to be marked completed…… that keeps me alive.

My Definition of God

Since my collage days I was doubtful about existence of God, I used to argue with all by stating God doesn’t exists. I used to argue, its you who put effort so you get the result, if you don’t put effort you won’t get desired outcome. Universe is all about science, everything is based on science. I remember my friend had given me example saying if I was about to meet accident and somehow if I am saved won’t you believe in God and I had answered him, I will call it coincidence.

I started to find answer to my question by reading books. Mostly I read books about Swami Vivekanand and books by ‘Ramkrishna Math‘ as Swami Vivekanand also never believed in God in his childhood and as Narendra was against Murti Pooja and later he became devotee.

And now I have my own definition of God that God is human creation, its a belief. Common person needs to be hopeful all the time to live successful life, when things goes beyond ones capability he needs someone to rely on. As child we trust our parents, teacher. When we grow old probably its the concept of God that helps us to trust on and be hopeful. There is some energy because of which this universe is created and being operated, I call that energy as God and I surrender myself to it.

In many situation we don’t get answer for many of the questions like why this happened to me when I did not put any efforts. Eg. When I had put efforts, in spite of having offer letters from two companies my joining was delayed indefinitely due to recession and next year I was fortunate enough to get call form one of those company, which was my dream company although I was graduated last year and was no longer fresh passed out. And I now I call that as destiny. Destiny is inevitable. But I still have a question, is there still some logic behind destiny?

I believe in one more thing which my religion has taught me God (the universal energy) is everywhere in you, me and in every living, non-living being. So be grateful to everything. To realize this, you & God are same is liberation. You will be free then and nothing will be unachievable for you. 

Sometimes I do rituals but that just because it makes me happy and auspicious. In most of Hindu religion by doing pooja, we express thankfulness to living nonliving things. You can express your gratitude in any form that’s what I believe in.

The same thing was explained by one liner definition I had found in one of the book and which I had liked, is mentioned in blog below.

What is God

Way to achieve peace and happiness

Everyone wants to be happy.

To be happy one should know what is happiness, what is peace. One should start thinking about it. 

We should find what things make us unhappy and should get rid of it. Our own wants, ambitions, jealousy, greediness, dissatisfaction makes us restless. We should work to conquer these emotions. The want to have which is not yours, the ambition to be which is not your personality, the wish to seek attention, the want to impress others, etc such wants are actually hurdle in happiness and peace. These is no wrong to work upon ourselves, improve ourselves but it should be happy process. If its leading to unhappiness then there is time to introspect.

If we introspect we will find answers within and not anywhere out or in any book. We can be our own Guru. 

My Spiti Holidays

He left, Leaving behind everything he knew, Everything that broke his heart, Everything that mended it, Everything he loved, Everything he hated, Everything he originated from, Everything constantly destroying him, Everything that wasn't his anymore, Everything that will always be his. He left, asking himself how willing he is to feel smaller than he had ever felt, insignificant to the core, accepting that what he knew was just a miniscule drop of all the knowledge in the universe, and he was yet to know almost everything. And asking, if he was willing to go the entire length to accept that he was nothing but a fool, who didn't know anything, for it was then when it would all begin. It was then he would find himself being mesmerised by the magic of everything around him, for this is how he would open the portals for everything grand to enter within him, the moment he would accept that he still had an entire space to fill up within himself, for he knew nothing, he hadn't achieved anything, and he was just a small being walking on a huge planet. And this is how he began to walk upon the path of incredible happenings. This is how his life was going to transform.

Someone has said it so well... That’s what I feel exactly.

Kutch Nahi Dekha To Kuchh Nahi Dekha

After being to USA and visiting few many places there and exploring American culture, I have strong desire of exploring our own country which is rich in natural beauty and culture.

I had seen photos of my neighbor’s visit to Rann Utsav and I was fascinated to visit same. I started planning to visit same along with my sister, but somehow it didn’t work out. The year passed and I was disappointed that none of my travel plans was working out. And finally in month of Feb ryon final week of Rann Utsav we decided to visit Kutch.

If its Rann Utsav I had already decided to stay at tent city and what mesmerizing experience it was.

We got down at Bhuj railway station at 8:50 am and headed towards reception tents just outside the railway station. Our luggage was checked in and we were welcomed with some snacks and tea which was much needed. We boarded bus to Tent City which was around 150 km far from railway station. On the way we saw airbase and military base of Indian Armed Force… Dekhake bas ji bhar aaya… It was a road through desert. Horizon to horizon there was flat ground nothing on it other than some cactus.

We took halt at dairy stall where we got the local special tea.

We reached the Tent City which was no less than palace. The reception area itself as so grand, decorated with local handicrafts. After nominal formalities we were directed to our tent. The Tent City had total of 400 tents distributed among clusters. Our luggage was already inside our tent.

Overall ambiance of tent was not less than Shamiyana of some king in old days. Even in desert there was plenty of water supply that was feel proud aspect for me. There were two food areas where unlimited and variety of food was served for breakfast, lunch, snacks and dinner. Entire Tent City was built up and decorated with local art showcasing the culture at Kutch.
In the evening we went to White Rann to see the Sunset.

White Rann is desert of white sea salt. It was absolutely beautiful site. No words to express it. Its my first experience to see desert. So, I was absolutely speechless. In the evening we visited Rann Utsav which was almost over, very few stalls were running since it was final weekend and end of the Utsav. We returned to the Tent City and after dinner went to cultural activity area and enjoyed various performances of local artists, they were outstanding.

Next day we got up early morning to visit sunrise at White Rann. It was visual treat. We returned to The Tent City and explored it little more. There were stalls for some activities like paintball, shooting, cycling, etc. In the evening we boarded bus to visit Kala Dungar the highest point of Kutch from where Indo-Pak border is visible. On the way we visited some village known for handicrafts. We saw their circular homes made of clay called as Bhunga. Sunset from Kala Dungar is delight to watch, due to reflection you can see double sun while sunset. There is magnetic field on the way to Kala Dungar.

Third day was our final day at Kutch. We checked out from Tent City and hired a car to visit Mandavi. The drive to Mandavi was equally scenic. On the way we visited Jain Temple. We visited

Vijay Villa palace which is just a masterpiece then visited Madavi Beach. The driver was very good and was guiding us through and giving info about local stuff. We returned to Bhuj. There was Bhuj band on that Monday to protest Pulwama attack. During entire trip the beauty around me refrained me from concentrating on camera features to click best pics and the best images are in my memory.
With mesmerizing memories we boarded train back to Mumbai and yes how can I forget the lovely two Maharashtrian senior citizen couples I met in the train who made my return journey memorable.
Do visit Rann Utsav, do stay at Tent City or Bhunga !!

Happy Women’s Day…. My mother my super hero…

8th May is celebrated as women’s international day. On this event I came across with many articles, advertises, posts but the one video I loved it. A small baby drawing pic her working mom in office attire dropping her in school being her superhero and that reminds me my childhood. Yup, my mother is my superhero.

My mother always was independent lady, she supported her family, she did not overlook her duties towards kids, husband, in-laws, siblings and friends. She was always asked ‘Oh! You don’t have son’, but she never had that question in her mind. She cultivated not only thought of earning bread butter for self but making our own identity which was her incomplete dream. She led by example. She faced lots of odds but never gave up on values.

Even now people don’t understand girls don’t want to work only to earn money that can be their passion. And I got it from my mother. Even at the age to 72, she is active social worker which she has been throughout her life. She has always been ahead of time.

If I can do 10% of what she has done I will consider it as my life time achievement.

And yes to add to it, she used to drive the car as well.

Journey from Child to Grownup

As baby we are loved, cared and pampered. As we grow we learn new things and in our child days our every act is appreciated, our every learning is celebrated by our parents, relatives and most of the people around us. In our childhood we get what we ask for easily. Our parents take efforts to make us comfortable and focus on our upbringing. We get habituated to this love.

As we grow old, since we are habituated to this comfort level of being loved from people around us, we expect same thing. But we meet new people and may not experience same love what we used to get in our childhood days from everyone. And then we get hurt. Even if we grow old we behave as a kid inside to seek love from everyone around us as our past experience.

But as we grow old instead of seeking love we should learn to give love. We should learn to love without any expectations. That’s when we will truly be called as grownups.

A Story of a Wisdom Seeker

There was a rich person who had all material things in his life. But he was tired of having everything in his life as he is left with no goal or wish to achieve anything more in his life.

The more you achieve you understand you don’t get satisfaction or happiness with it. A poor person has lots of wishes, desires in his life. That makes that persons life going. But for rich person all his wishes are complete and he understands the things which he was running after are meaningless. He realizes that’s mirage.

Then this mas starts seeking for wisdom, the ultimate truth. He starts his search for Guru who will guide him. Someone tells him the wise person resides in Himalayas. He takes effort to find him in Himalayas. Finally, he finds that wise person sitting in ice under a tree. The rich man is very tired by the time he finds the wise man. He greets the wise man and asks him how will I be happy, show me the way to achieve wisdom. The wise man asks for cigarette to him. The rich man gets surprised. But he offers few cigarettes to wise man. And ask again the same question. The wise man tells him get me few more cigarettes next time and I will tell the truth. The rich man gets stunned. He says I have very short life, I am very tired, let me know what should I do to get happiness. The wise man asks him to go home, take rest and come back. But, don’t forget to get cigarettes for me. The rich man becomes annoyed. The wise man says its up to you, if you feel like to come back you can, there are many people who come here to seek wisdom will get cigarettes for me. The rich man agrees to go back and thinks will come back if I am alive.

The depressed rich man starts thinking over what the wise man said to him. Go home and take rest. May be the wise man has spoken the truth in encoded message. So he understand ones home is his own mind. Free yourself, search peace within yourself, you will find happiness.

Secrete of Our Happy Married Life….

Read an article on marriage and triggered me to write this….

Ours is arranged marriage. In case of arranged marriage as we all are aware we meet multiple prospective grooms or brides, talk to them and obviously judge them if he or she can be your perfect match. To do so you first need to know yourself well and then evaluate whether you can get along with the other person. This is what I think as I don’t believe in love at first sight. I really wonder if there is something called of love. I feel if you can respect other you automatically love that person and that was my criterion of match making. You should have some common things to spend your time together. You should have common values and beliefs.
I was against spending lot of money on ceremony, I had wish to donate that amount to Indian Army But this is my unfulfilled wish. The clothes, jewelry, make up were not the things that mattered to both of us. We were more than happy with whatever we gifted to each other. We were more interested in knowing and understanding each other because that’s what going to help us to last our relationship. We were busy making future plans, finding our new home. Sachin was looking for new home as per my preferences that was making me more comfortable with him. We both don’t believe in cast or religion. We were frank with each other. I was able to express my thoughts with him freely that’s what mattered to me.
Since then till today we never gave more importance on gifts, flowers, etc. We see to it we spend time together in activities that both of us like. He helps me in cooking sometimes, we go for walk together. I have developed of new hobby of trekking and walking on trails with him. I think for married couples its necessary to develop common interest which you both can enjoy. We make efforts to make each other happy. Our marriage has brought best out of us. We plan for future together and have common goals in life. That binds us tight.

I will always pray for we to be same forever.