Journey from Child to Grownup

As baby we are loved, cared and pampered. As we grow we learn new things and in our child days our every act is appreciated, our every learning is celebrated by our parents, relatives and most of the people around us. In our childhood we get what we ask for easily. Our parents take efforts to make us comfortable and focus on our upbringing. We get habituated to this love.

As we grow old, since we are habituated to this comfort level of being loved from people around us, we expect same thing. But we meet new people and may not experience same love what we used to get in our childhood days from everyone. And then we get hurt. Even if we grow old we behave as a kid inside to seek love from everyone around us as our past experience.

But as we grow old instead of seeking love we should learn to give love. We should learn to love without any expectations. That’s when we will truly be called as grownups.

A Story of a Wisdom Seeker

There was a rich person who had all material things in his life. But he was tired of having everything in his life as he is left with no goal or wish to achieve anything more in his life.

The more you achieve you understand you don’t get satisfaction or happiness with it. A poor person has lots of wishes, desires in his life. That makes that persons life going. But for rich person all his wishes are complete and he understands the things which he was running after are meaningless. He realizes that’s mirage.

Then this mas starts seeking for wisdom, the ultimate truth. He starts his search for Guru who will guide him. Someone tells him the wise person resides in Himalayas. He takes effort to find him in Himalayas. Finally, he finds that wise person sitting in ice under a tree. The rich man is very tired by the time he finds the wise man. He greets the wise man and asks him how will I be happy, show me the way to achieve wisdom. The wise man asks for cigarette to him. The rich man gets surprised. But he offers few cigarettes to wise man. And ask again the same question. The wise man tells him get me few more cigarettes next time and I will tell the truth. The rich man gets stunned. He says I have very short life, I am very tired, let me know what should I do to get happiness. The wise man asks him to go home, take rest and come back. But, don’t forget to get cigarettes for me. The rich man becomes annoyed. The wise man says its up to you, if you feel like to come back you can, there are many people who come here to seek wisdom will get cigarettes for me. The rich man agrees to go back and thinks will come back if I am alive.

The depressed rich man starts thinking over what the wise man said to him. Go home and take rest. May be the wise man has spoken the truth in encoded message. So he understand ones home is his own mind. Free yourself, search peace within yourself, you will find happiness.

Secrete of Our Happy Married Life….

Read an article on marriage and triggered me to write this….

Ours is arranged marriage. In case of arranged marriage as we all are aware we meet multiple prospective grooms or brides, talk to them and obviously judge them if he or she can be your perfect match. To do so you first need to know yourself well and then evaluate whether you can get along with the other person. This is what I think as I don’t believe in love at first sight. I really wonder if there is something called of love. I feel if you can respect other you automatically love that person and that was my criterion of match making. You should have some common things to spend your time together. You should have common values and beliefs.
I was against spending lot of money on ceremony, I had wish to donate that amount to Indian Army But this is my unfulfilled wish. The clothes, jewelry, make up were not the things that mattered to both of us. We were more than happy with whatever we gifted to each other. We were more interested in knowing and understanding each other because that’s what going to help us to last our relationship. We were busy making future plans, finding our new home. Sachin was looking for new home as per my preferences that was making me more comfortable with him. We both don’t believe in cast or religion. We were frank with each other. I was able to express my thoughts with him freely that’s what mattered to me.
Since then till today we never gave more importance on gifts, flowers, etc. We see to it we spend time together in activities that both of us like. He helps me in cooking sometimes, we go for walk together. I have developed of new hobby of trekking and walking on trails with him. I think for married couples its necessary to develop common interest which you both can enjoy. We make efforts to make each other happy. Our marriage has brought best out of us. We plan for future together and have common goals in life. That binds us tight.

I will always pray for we to be same forever.

Monsoon Trek to Diksal Waterfall

Monsoon season starts around first week of June in Konkan region of Maharashtra. My most favorite season as it takes all heat away from the atmosphere. Dust from Surrounding plant, buildings roads is washed away. Everything appears to be clean and new. Plants are more green. Sahyadri ranges are covered with lush greenery everywhere, cloud cover top of the mountains. These changes in surrounding call for monsoon outings.
This year we planned to go on trek with cousins to Diksal Waterfall with Vranger trekking group. This is adventurous trek comprising of water rappelling at the waterfall.

Saturday, 7th July 2018, morning we caught train at 4:10 to Dadar station from Andheri. We were a group of about 10-12 people including youngest trekker of age 6 yrs old coming from various places from Mumbai. All were excited and geared up. We all gathered at Dadar and boarded train to Kasara. Needless to say fun started the moment then. We reached Bhivpuri station around 8:00 am and met the trekking group. We started trek around 8:30 am after having breakfast and introductory session.

The trek was about 1.5 hrs of walk to reach to waterfall. It was raining heavily. That is what we wanted to trek in rain. We were walking on trails. Wherever we could see we were seeing only greenery. Sahyadri ranges were covered in green and we could see springs everywhere, clouds coming down and covering mountains. We passed many springs on the way. Must to mention the youngest trekker was the best trekker of the group. He was enjoying climbs, jumping in water and super fast. We reached the destination. The trekker gave instructions about how to do rappelling.

As it was raining heavily the waterfall had heavy water flow. The instructors waited till flow was reduced. All the enthusiastic people enjoyed rappelling except me and Sachin as we found it was too adventurous for us. I get scared of heights. So to reach to top of the waterfall itself was conquering my fear. We had food after everyone completed their rappelling and started return back around 5:00pm. Again descending trek was tougher task for me. It was great experience to do it successfully.
This was my third monsoon trek and look forward to do many more.
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Personality – Nourishing vs Toxic

A toxic personality has a negative mindset. A Perfectionist generally has a toxic personality. You won't find anything wrong in this person but being perfect, this concept itself, is a behavior of finding or looking for faults or incompleteness. Such people set high standards, compare things with ideal things, perfection is their goal. Which leads to unhappy life. These people are intellectual. It is difficult to win argument with such people. But they may not be wise. These intellectual people try to impose logic on life. Logic by means is perfect but life can’t be perfect. Perfectionists try to look for ideal things, try to impose them on their life and ignore reality. 

People with nourishing personalities do not look for ideality; they look into the reality of life. These people look into the positive aspects of life. They are happy and satisfied. They know themselves, their strengths and limits. They don’t go against their nature.

Try to be real to yourself. Know what is good for you. If you are idle, that’s your nature. If  you try to go against it you won’t be happy. Don’t set ideal goals. They create abnormality in personality as you get occupied with one thought to achieve something and you tend to be unhappy. Your goal should be to enjoy what you do. Do what you are capable of, accept your limitations. Gradually you will turn to a nourishing personality, and you will enjoy more and you will be more introspective.

Be free, accept and enjoy. All your worries will disappear.

Lived My Dreams

Happy to say I made it.
I don't have any unfulfilled dreams for self.
I worked hard, gave multiple attempts to make it.
Sidi ungli se nahi nikala to rasten badale but never changed my destination.
It makes me complete, contented.
I am ready for next task.... May god give me strength, wisdom, vision to succeed.